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Stand By Your Man My A$S

Posted by Naomi "DigitalFanGirl" On March - 11 - 2008

11spitzer04_600.jpgI am sure everyone has heard about New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer, who was put on BLAST after being caught on a federal wiretap where he was heard arranging a meetup with a high-priced prostitute (high-priced/low-priced; a hooker is a hooker) at a Washington hotel last month. This is all according to a law enforcement official and a person briefed on the investigation. Funny being as though Gov. Spitzer gained noted popularity by being relentless in pursuing the wrongdoings of Wall Street (huh, is this a pot/kettle/black situation – I’d say so).

Anyway, here’s the thing that truly bugs me and just makes me want to pull out a can-of-whoop ass. Why is it that every time a politician cheats on his wife and/or betrays his family in some way; he has to give a public speech of apology with his wife standing by his side?????? Hasn’t the wife suffered enough? I see no point in the wife enduring additional embarrassment and humiliation because her husband couldn’t keep his pecker in his pants. Who was it that decided the wife needs to ‘stand by her man’ in these types of situations? Does it really make you think any better of the person who screwed up? Does it all of a sudden wash away what he did? Does it make you forget that he was a high ranking official who was stupid enough to get involved with prostitutes although his entire life is pretty much under constant scrutiny? HELL NO. For me; it doesn’t make me look at the wife as being strong or even supportive; it makes me look at him and think he’s a complete butthole for allowing his wife to go through more pain, agony, embarrassment and humiliation.

NOW, if this is something his wife chose to do – I can say no more (well I could say more, but it isn’t pretty, nor is it nice), but if she was pressured by his PR people to do this because this is just what’s been done in the past, then my heart goes out to her (to a certain extent. sometimes you have to put on your big girl panties and say HELL NO I’m not doing that). One things for sure, it wouldn’t have been me. I would have stayed home that night. While he was giving his pathetic speech I would have been kindly packing up his crap and changing the locks……….But that’s just me………

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  • http://themacmommy.blogspot.com TheMacMommy

    Oh HELL yeah! I was thinking the same thing when I saw that press conference. I was thinking the wife is going through one of two things:

    1. She was roped into standing there by the PR people (If that’s the case she needs to grow a set and stand up for herself.)

    2. SHE wrote his speech for him and was standing there just to make sure he read it correctly all the while thinking “you dumbass peckerhead, I hope you fry, I hope your d*ck turns green and falls off, when we get home, I’m going to make your life a living hell you sorry sonofab*tch.”

    Something tells me though that it was more likely scenario number 1. and for that I feel sad.

    This tradition, as its become, of the man standing there apologizing while the scorned wife stands there sets such a bad example. I’m so sick of people romanticizing these men. Kennedy is a perfect example. He was a womanizer yet so many people loved him despite what he did. Same with Clinton. I personally thought Clinton was ok, he did his job as president (much better than what we’re stuck with now) but just because I think he was a good president doesn’t mean I’m going to love the dude. He was wrong and he should have taken it like a man. Instead, he was a coward.

    Instead of having us watch these guys give speeches where the wife stands there and makes it all better so the next guy can screw up, why don’t these women take a stand and show how unacceptable this behavior is? I don’t want to watch some sorry ass stand there and read “I’m sorry, I quit” off a piece of paper, I want to watch on the 5 o’clock news as his sorry ass is sent packing from his plush home in the burbs. I want to see him on an episode of Cops (and I hate that show but I would watch it for this).

    That’s one thing I don’t like about Hilary. I’m not sure she sets a good example for young women here in America when it comes to this topic. Your husband cheats on you and you just brush it under the carpet? What message does that send to women about marriage and relationships? What message does that send to young men about marriage and relationships? How does this set an example and promote a good image of our country to others?

    Foreign policy? Let’s begin with what our domestic policy is first, shall we? How can you build trust in a place where the leaders cheat, lie and manipulate each other?

    Is it really too much to ask?